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<\/h2>\n\n\n\nWhen you\u2019re in a relationship life can seem so great. You\u2019re in love, talking about the future and spending the days together cuddling up in bed. You can’t break up, they won’t become your ex. That\u2019s when you take the next step, bringing up the idea to take a trip together months down the track. Which seems amazing at the time, things are better than they have ever been, and that won\u2019t change, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The days are spent planning this vacation, choosing a country, creating an itinerary. You book this 6 months in advance to make those airfares more affordable. You\u2019ve been together 1 year, so you can easily make it a little longer. Though a month before you are set to depart, things fall apart, you no longer love what attracted you to them and it\u2019s time to call it quits. Now comes the awkward elephant in the room. . . what happens with the trip you are about to leave for. Neither one of you wants to sacrifice your hard earned money so you bite the bullet and say \u2018how hard can it be?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Truth be told, extremely hard, and I am speaking from experience. There were tears shed, voices raised and strong opinions galore, though we both had an amazing time and he actually met a girl which he is still with as I write this. So I created a list to ensure anyone else in the same position can make the most of their holiday. Because even if it may not be the most ideal situation there are certain things which can be done to ensure everyone survives and stays sane.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Let\u2019s get right down to the dirty part, don\u2019t do it. By it I mean sex and by don\u2019t do it I mean if that thought even slightly crosses your mind shut it down immediately. This is best for both of you. Lets be honest you broke up for a reason. Right now, you\u2019re enjoying a break from the realities of life, confusion and stress are the last thing you need. Holidays involve drinking and those drinks can well indeed make your mind fuzzy. They\u2019re looking good with that sweet sun tan, but don\u2019t let those beer\/cocktail goggles fool you, you\u2019ll sure regret it in the morning.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It isn\u2019t just sex with your ex you should refrain from, also as hard as it may be, sex with anyone else. So yes, that means the summer romance you have been dreaming about with that sexy Italian, the charismatic Frenchman or perfectly sculpted Brazilian can\u2019t happen. The reason behind this is pretty obvious, the evil green jealousy monster. Even if you and them aren\u2019t together anymore. Perhaps you even ended on good terms. Just remember feelings can be easily hurt and we are all very vulnerable after a break up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Remember this person that you are travelling with will be following you back home. You will probably have mutual friends. So, unless you want to seem like a heartless bitch, just keep the clothes on and respect eachothers feelings. Even if you may be friends and getting along well, don\u2019t rock the boat. The holiday isn\u2019t over yet, one night isn\u2019t worth ruining someone else\u2019s holiday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/h2>\n\n\n\nThis is all about finding the perfect balance. The balance of being friends, or if that seems impossible just dealing with your ex, and also going off having your own adventures, solo time. You\u2019ve booked activities together and planned what attractions you\u2019d like to visit. Travel to some of these places together and do some of what was originally planned. This person is someone you once laughed with and stayed up all night talking to. Just because you aren\u2019t together anymore doesn\u2019t mean that suddenly their personality has changed and they\u2019ve become totally unrelatable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Saying this, it doesn\u2019t mean that you have to spend each and every moment with them, hell no. There will be things you planned to do and explore that you had to compromise on. Maybe they didn\u2019t want to hike around the coast and you didn\u2019t want to visit the historical museum. Well guess what, you no longer have to deal with doing their crap and they no longer need to deal with yours. Talk to them about this, come up with an agreement \u201cOn Friday you do this and I\u2019ll do this\u201d. Make sure they know you aren\u2019t ditching them because you hate them, rather you would prefer to do a different activity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is simple, be respectful of your ex. Even if the break up isn\u2019t fresh, things you say can hurt them. Don\u2019t go getting with someone else. Don\u2019t leave them stranded and alone. Don\u2019t say \u201cthis confirms why we aren\u2019t with eachother\u201d. Just treat them how you would want them to treat you. Even if you may want to shout at them and storm off, refrain from doing this. Instead take a deep breath and go to the bathroom if you need some space. Just know that the situation isn\u2019t forever, it\u2019s just for-holiday.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
You may not be able to say this aloud, but you can think it, and trust me you\u2019ll be thinking it, \u2018thank god you aren\u2019t with them anymore\u2019. Now you don\u2019t need to dress up, chuck on a face full of makeup, put on a push up bra and your tightest dress. Loose clothing and a bit mascara will suffice. As long as you\u2019re semi presentable to go outside, nothing else matters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The things they do and the way that they would react in situations no longer bother you. You aren\u2019t attached to them anymore. There\u2019s no more us or we, just you and I. Their once absolutely humiliating actions now just make you laugh of relief. This is such an amazing feeling of freedom. You may have to deal with them on this trip. Though, when you get back home you can head your separate ways.<\/p>\n\n\n\n <\/p>\n\n\n\n My last point on how to survive travelling with an ex is honestly to laugh and not have any regrets. I know, it sounds clich\u00e9, but seriously if you can\u2019t laugh this trip is going to be hell. You can\u2019t take what happens to heart, if they hurt you, it just confirms that you aren\u2019t right for each other. Don\u2019t scoop down to their level. Rise above that and remember that in the future, it\u2019ll be the amazing activities and adventures you went on that you will remember, not the petty arguments.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So don\u2019t freak out that you and your partner have just broken up and you have wasted thousands of dollars. Seriously go for it, enjoy a break from real life. Even though it may not be the ideal situation, it certainly is possible with hard work and respect.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" When you\u2019re in a relationship life can seem so great. You\u2019re in love, talking about the future and spending the days together cuddling up in bed. You can’t break up, they won’t become your ex. That\u2019s when you take the next step, bringing up the idea to take a trip together months down the track. […]\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1303,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[43],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1300","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-other-travel-tips"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.backpackerswanderlust.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1300","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.backpackerswanderlust.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.backpackerswanderlust.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.backpackerswanderlust.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.backpackerswanderlust.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1300"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.backpackerswanderlust.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1300\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.backpackerswanderlust.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1303"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.backpackerswanderlust.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1300"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.backpackerswanderlust.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1300"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.backpackerswanderlust.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1300"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}![\"group-photo-sunset-camping\"](\"https:\/\/www.backpackerswanderlust.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/06\/rsz_photo-1444124818704-4d89a495bbae_1.jpg\" "\\"\\"")
<\/figure>\n\n\n\nLaugh and Don\u2019t Have Regrets<\/h2>\n\n\n\n